The other "F" word

             One of the most difficult traits in mastering sobriety, is dealing with feelings.. FEELings are the other"F"word everyone is uncomfortable with. I was so terrified of confrontation and expressing myself, that I had to be buzzed first. This usually led to another drink for good luck, which usually led to another
drink to go. At which point,  I would either cancel, or not remember the confrontation.
I feel lonely, gulp. I feel hungry and im too tired to cook, gulp.  I feel happy and its overwhelming, gulp.  I feel sad and I don't want to care so much, gulp. The worst, ugliest, most destructive combination of emotions...."PMS"...GULP, GULP, GULP.
           Anger, sadness, heartbreak and fear, all are experienced and dealt with in a far less dramatic and severe manner. Who would have thought? I thought I was always going to feel psychotic and insecure, afraid to express my needs.  Turns out, every sober day that passes by it gets easier and less stressful. The intake of chemicals, had pushed down all the feelings I needed to deal with, which created years of compressed emotions to reveal themselves over a period of 90 days. This is where the need for excessive amounts of exercise came in, which helped with the ridiculous amounts of chocolate intake. I had overloaded my body with years of frustration, and knew it was not going to happen overnight.  It took hours, days, weeks of focus and determination.
            The process went something like this: feelings emerged, I ate chocolate, feelings emerged, I went biking. Feelings emerged, I went walking. Feelings emerged, I read the “Big Book.” Feelings emerged, I went shopping. Until finally, one day I woke up with a clear head, a strong heart, thinner, and with a pretty hefty pay pal statement. I know that amount of money I spent online was not even half of what I use to spend of alcohol in 90 days. I still had a significant amount of brains cells left, and my dignity. I have come to realize that dealing with emotions sober, is so much easier and more productive than the alternative. Eventually, those feelings are going to come out, they most certainly should be organized and tactful.

Old fashion common sense consideration

In the year 2011, you would hope that we would all realize how important it is to be considerate.  However, I think some people missed the moral train to society. Donald Trump for instance, is famous for being highly successful at finances and building billion dollar empire; do you think a man with such financial prestige would be tactful enough to lower his voice while publicly doubting the President of the United States?

Facebook was created on the basis of Social and Intellectual comparison; a  network to link prestigious college students to one another for options of meeting and/or dating. However, the origin of the idea came from the anger of the inventor at his X girlfriend and intentions of humiliating her, along with thousands of other female college students for revenge.

Being able to communicate with our family and friends on a long distance basis has been the magnificent outcome of this both fortunate and unfortunate event. Yet,do we remember the importance of being careful and polite with our posting and comments? It seems as though in order to learn lessons and set boundaries, it is crucial to be at our strongest emotionally, while setting tactful boundaries; hence,"common sense consideration."

Honesty is always the best policy, but when hundreds or thousand of people can view your thoughts, what are the rules of posting? I am sure we have much to learn about ourselves and each other, and cannot help to wonder what the true intentional comments are about, if not positive/considerate?

I have on occasion disabled my Facebook account and taken a break, after learning of several hurtful comments or possible unintentional inappropriate remarks, and so I am on the defense about who I allow into my life or most intimate, personal thoughts with.

Some people find themselves overwhelmed and scared, some are more open, and  some great relationships are found again: ; made from scratch.

It is most positive that we are priveleged to have all of the options to choose what we desire; freedom of speech, and freedom of choosing who we allow in our lives.

Keeping in mind the Karma of Common Sense Consideration.

We are very lucky.